Have you ever had a disgruntled customer, a hater, or someone who just doesn’t like you? How do you deal with it in a positive way?
Here are a few excellent ways on success.com that myself and other amazing entrepreneurs deal with a negative soul.
Let’s face it if you’re going to be successful and raise your profile in the world your going to come across haters, and angry customers.
There is no one size that fits all so that you will come across all kinds of characters, and negative people. Most just want some attention from you or for you to give them a freebie or to vent their frustration.
I have a simple rule I try to follow, and I categorize people into 3 categories.
This ability to compartmentalize people of different engagements helps a lot in being able to emotionally deal with them and allows you to free yourself up to focus on what’s important.
1. 33.33% Haters – these are people who regardless of what amount of money you make, lives that you change or the world you improve they will always hate you.
You will spend a lot of time trying to rack your brain and figure out what it is you did and why that someone out there could hate you so much even when they don’t even know you.
These people will find wherever you are online and find a way to slander, defame or harm you and your reputation.
These people are usually miserable, have tiny to no source of income and usually just hate you because your successfully impacting lives and they don’t get to benefit from your efforts.
Rest assured if they hate you they also hate many other people, so you’re not alone.
These people will go above and beyond the average level to try to tell the whole world how bad of a human being you are.
They will convince a bunch of similar minds to theirs to hate you alongside them. In this situation there is nothing you can do, if you try to defend yourself, it will only grow the problem and give them the idea that if they keep hating you will keep responding to them giving them attention.
Just do you, success is the best revenge and for anyone who hates you continuing to succeed wildly will pretty much do the job of pissing them off even more.
It doesn’t matter what you try they’ll never stop hating you. It is in their very nature and something you can’t change in them they must want to change it themselves.
Use these people as a fuel source to remind yourself you have a purpose on this planet and that you need to keep succeeding grinding and shining.
The more you chase your dreams and help others pursue theirs the more you will come across negativity. Negativity and Haters are usually reserved for those people who are somehow somewhere making a big difference in the world.
Keep making a difference that is all the matters in the end.
2. 33.33% Neutral People – This category is people who regardless of who you are what you’ve done and how you have made a difference they will never care.
To them your irrelevant, you don’t exist, and they don’t want to spend anytime entertaining the thought of you.
These people usually are self-absorbed, and close minded they don’t pay attention to any significant success and could care less if you’ve climbed Mount Everest or made millions of dollars.
The key to dealing with these people is just to ignore them. Categorize them into the neutral category and just carry on with your life.
3. 33.33% Raving Fans – These are the people who love you.
They recognize, admire, respect and support all the good you do for yourself and others.
They like comment share and engage with you in everything you do. They buy your products, services, and support your businesses.
These are loyal loving and motivating people. They will always message you with questions asking for guidance and most of the time they apply everything you teach and share with them.
Your job is to SERVE these people as best as you can with all the love support and patience they deserve.
If you focus on helping these people, they will always stay loyal to supporting your dreams.
The more you concentrate on this category of people the more your life will improve, and your happiness will skyrocket.
These people become your army and defend you against all the haters and neutral people out there.
Whether you are present or absent, they will always speak good of you and about you.
These people respect your hustle, they live to learn from you, they model your actions, and they continually get uplifted, motivated and inspired by your words, thoughts, actions, and consistent habits.
What I usually do is mentally file-fold all the people I meet online and offline into these 3 categories.
I want to spend my life surrounded by positive, motivating, inspiring people because I believe any other energy source can bring you down to a lower emotional state and you cannot serve the world while staying in a lower emotional state.
It is only great optimism and positivity that encourages a person to keep helping sharing loving and giving unconditionally.
The next time you come across someone trying to bring you down remember your job is to focus only on those bringing you up and to ignore delete block and remove from your life all harmful elements that do not support your purpose passion and dreams. Surround yourself with great human beings and you are destined for greatness.